Friday, September 26, 2008

Love on Trial

Last night, I was working at Sutter hospital. One of our patient who had a brain tumor was scheduled to get neurosurgery. This kind of surgery that was suppose to be carried out was done very rare. The neurosurgeons and oncologist where going to access his tumor through his ear canal, which i have never heard before. After helping the nurses with other patients i went to OR and was watching the surgery. The surgery was suppose to go 14 hours. There were lot of nurses and others doctors who were watching the surgery from the view theater. His wife was also sitting among us. She was white woman in her late forties. It was first time that i saw a white woman chanting the god's name, it was surprising because most of the Americans are not very religious. Almost two hours passed and i was still watching the surgery that was carried out and listening to what doctors were saying about the likelihood of this man's survival. Suddenly, my phone vibrated, I went aside in the corner and picked up the phone. On the floor we are not suppose to take any private calls, but i know what made me take my cousin's call.

My cousin and myself are two different individual, we don't have any similarties what so ever. We had different priorities after graduating from high school....but i had always loved her, since she is younger than me. I always treated her like my younger biological sister.

Getting back to the call........, she asked me if i had few minutes to listen to her....i wanted to go back and watch the surgery...but i could sense that there was something wrong from her sobbing and heavy voice. She told me that .......she was getting divorce with her husband..... and for a  minute, ...i just thought that... she might had fight with Amar and she is just angry with him, and thats why she is saying like that. I asked her what happened, she said.... "Amar is not the same person I married, he is so suspicious all the time...."

I didn't know what to say....i told her that if she was joking with me, its really bad on her part.... She said ~she was serious and she is back to massi's place with her one year old daughter and meeting the attorney to file divorce. I told her that i will call her after work...because i was just out of words and didn't wanted to say anything without thinking...I want back to OR theater, but i couldn't focus. I decided to leave early from work.

From going back to the oncology floor, in the elevator, back to parking lot, driving back home...i kept saying that they guys were love...they guys were love??? How come love can die in three years of marriage...love should grown more and more with every passing year of marriage. Isn't the marriage the success of love????....I asked myself..and the answer that i got from my heart was "definitely"....how can love die??

It was not the first time i was seeing the two people in marriage getting divorce, but i couldn't imagine that this time it was my cousin and her husband. My cousin ... went against whole family and relatives to just marry this guy....now what has happened???
 Love can put relationships and people on trial....and this time my cousin' marriage was on trial.

I am very familiar with this so called man name "Mr.Love" I have seen the strength of love, the happiness it can offer and disappointments it can created in one's life. 
I was just thinking about the vows that two people take when they get married....how come those vows weaken in just three years of marriage??? What is the fault of their one year old daughter??? She doesn't even understand the meaning of father and she will be losing one soon....THE LOVE was putting the life of one year old on trial. 

I already had the hatred feeling towards this~ "The LOVE", but suddenly, I pity on the people who say that they love some one, because they have no clue what they are putting themselves into.
 In the contemporary world of today love is just a fashion, just like a branded clothes..IT is a BRANDED feelings. People wants to try this branded feelings, because they see others trying this brand so called LOVE.....because they don't know the hazards that love can cause. People are unaware of the radiation that love is capable of spreading....which in most cases is capable of destroying their life and life of people connected to them..

So i honestly pity the people in LOVE...because they don't know their life is on Trial.....

Parvy

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Love actually is all around.. more often dan not, we listen to d odr syd of luv, d negativ syd dese daez.. cz ppl hav stopped botherin wat luv means. rightly said by u, it'z becum a BRANDED kinda thing, use n thrw..
bt sooner or l8r d person has to realise luv'z divine n widout it 1 cant survive n den one regrets wat one has dun to d his/her luvd one..

i hope we ppl start realisin d true meanin of luv bfre bein a victim of it..

God blezz

Unknown said...

Parv! hold on, its your blog so you can write what ever you want to.But honey, Love is not just b/w guy or gal. Love is divine blessing. It is b/w mother and child. brother and sister. Yeah love can cause many fail relationships and which can lead to heartache and one do lose faith in love. But one should always wait for the person which truly defines the meaning of love. This fail relationship most importantly teaches you to move on in life. I am really sorry about shavi and malika.
Love
Niharika

Anonymous said...

i totally agree wid niharika.. wen i said luv is all around, i meant d same, luv is b/w a mother n child etc..

Butterfly said...

I know what you guys are trying to convey...buti am talking about the love is reason for heatbreaks..love that is results in breaking of such a strong relationship like marriage...what about that love. Actually its not a love but a love fashion, that is common everywhere mostly india these days...!people make gf just to show off in front of their their friend in pubs and disco's...what you thinks those guys don't say their gf's that they love them??? I truly doubt that...!

Anonymous said...

yea exactly.. wen u r urself sayin dat, "dat is not luv", den i dn think luv is to b blamed fr.. itz v ppl who hav becum so insane dat we r usin it as a fashion statement n nt realisin its true value..
if luv is true from both the sides, it cud hardly result into break-ups, i think, n i might b wrong..

god blezz

Unknown said...

i wud simply say....... u too exactly know wat it is.... i mean u know wat love is n wat it can do ..... n u cant blame love for sumthng being a reason to not work... if we ppl cant handle d diviness of it then we shld luk into ourselves... :)
oyr rab di bandgi vi tan ehi ishq haqiki hai... bas loki ishq majaji nu ishq haqiki samjh lainde ne...:)

Unknown said...

This blog is quite controversial.

... said...

I think people who have never loved, who are in the intoxication of love, and who have been betrayed in love will always have three different views on LOVE !
Someone who have never been in love with a guy/girl can be very rational & convinced of its divinity. But someone heartbroken would be obsessed about not falling in love as a better idea.
When intoxicated by love, love appears to be the most divine, when betrayed by it, it appears to be a sweet poison & most would say "If I could go back in time, I would never have loved !"